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My Frustration With Women Who Won’t Date Shortish Guys |
Dating has been a struggle all my life, and I’ve finally gotten to the root of my cause – I’m short. It’s a shame that my sexual potential is impeded by this superficial roadblock, a roadblock just high enough that I cannot see to the other side. It has prevented me from dating supermodels and women in the 9 and 10 bracket on the “good looking” scale, but such is the culture we live in, emphasizing looks and appearance above everything else.
First off, I’m not that short – 5’5, or 5’6 in big shoes. If I were in Costa Rica, I’d be pretty tall, same with Japan and apparently this island off the Philippines where people average 4’5. Still, this is enough to get me the high hat from the gorgeous women I lust after.
Sure, I can “get” not as attractive women, but my tastes are quite particular. Plus, the women who tend to like me are typically short, and I like them taller, 5’7 or higher. So you can see I’m in a Catch 2’2 (ha. Little joke there.)
This begs the question: why do women dismiss short guys? The only thing I can think of is the pathetic myth that women want to feel “safe”, and short guys can’t provide the necessary protection. What is this, the wild west?? In our lawsuit-happy society, any one who would fight is a total moron. Sure, they might win, but the budget previously allocated towards a fur coat goes straight to legal fees. I think my companion would rather have a fur coat thank you very much.
My point is this – we need to get past our preconceived, superficial notions of who we “should” be with, based on looks. Can someone’s height make you laugh? Can you have an intelligent conversation with their muscles? Ladies, please get over the height thing and see me for who I am: a real, genuine individual who just wants to date someone hot and tall.
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I feel your frustration.
I’m 5’7 and I’ve been told by women WHO ARE SHORTER THAN ME, that I am too short for them.
been there too. I blame professional athletes, for reasons unknown.
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Women like men that are taller than them, especially women over the 5-7″ range. We like to feel feminine, and being larger in BOTH ways than our man, is hard on our ego. I’m 5-8″ and I feel awkward around guys shorter than 5-10″. I know a few girls that date shorter guys who are tall themselves, but they are scrawny little, so they don’t have a problem being taller than a guy, because they are still daintier. On that note, i have dated shorter guys, but they made up for it by being (naturally i might add) stalky and strong as oxes, allowing me to still retain my “feminine” persona. I am successful in life, but i still want my man to be my protector.
barf.
How hypocritical. You say “my tastes are quite particular,” however, you consider it “superficial” for a girl to want to be with a tall man.
Hmmmm cynicism noted LOL! You may not be tall, but at least when you offend someone you’ll be able to make a quick getaway between their legs and scamper off! The ying to the yang
Dude- you contradict your own argument “the women who tend to like me are typically short, and I like them taller, 5’7 or higher.” Why can’t women have these same preferences?
AND, why is it superficial for a woman to like a guy that is at least the same height, but not superficial for you to say that you have particular tastes and, “I can “get” not as attractive women.”
Your statements that it’s superficial and unjust for women to have strict physical standards, yet you list yours with an incredible sense of entitlement goes beyond hypocrisy to expose your ingrained sexism. You are implying that you, as a man, should be allowed to maintain “quite particular” tastes while women should be ostracized for doing so as a subordinate sex. In fact, in a cross-species perspective, the partner who would potentially be contributing more energy to reproduction within the pair (in the human condition, females) are significantly more selective. Traits such as musculature and height are linked with genetic immunity and “good genes,” so it is intuitive for women to seek partnership with the largest, most genetically apt members of a population. It is then that social components such as sense of humor, income, ability to cook, etc are taken into consideration.
Now, I would normally explain to you that we operate in a culture that allows for social attributes to supercede many of the physical ones, but apparently not only are you genetically inept but you seem to lack the social graces that would make you a viable mate. Therefore, I think that it’s probably best if you don’t contribute to the gene pool.
Personally I would prefer to date someone taller because it’s just the way of things. I’d like to hug my boyfriend and rest my head on his chest, not have him resting in mine! However, I’m 5’3 so typically people are taller than me anyway. You say women should get past the height thing, but you have preferences too, you said you’d prefer a girl 5’7 or so… my point being, it goes both ways. Maybe it’s not women. Maybe it’s your standards.