Graph Stat: Why He Doesn’t Like You Anymore

More often than not, men and women are  ships passing in the night, never quite existing on the same level. This phenom is the subject of endless study and speculation, but never is it more the case than at the beginning of a courtship – such a delicate period of wide error margins and tricky variables.

Sounds like a job for math and statistics, and it is. I introduce to the world the Rothman graph (fig. A). Let me break it down. The Level of Interest is the amount of interest and enthusiasm (sexual or otherwise) each has for the other. The Level of Familiarity is how well they know each other, defined by time.

You will quickly notice the extreme distance between the man and woman on the level of interest in the beginning: the woman is on the lowest level while the man is that the very top. This is because men, generally stimulated and driven by visual stimuli, believes from the beginning that she is perfect for him – even though he knows nothing about her.  She’s hot, she’s the one. Period.

Women, however, reserve interest in the beginning; their levels rise only with time and familiarity. Indeed, she needs to know “the real” him, and interest is yoked to time. So the disconnect here is obvious and, much of the time, irreconcilable; the results then are all too predictable.

They only come together, literally, upon conception; almost immediately after each takes their, sharp dramatic turn in opposite trajectories. Ironically, the end result is mutual – utter confusion.  But we now understand there is nothing to be confused about, and can only hope that lightning strikes and the warring opposites get set on the same (or at least similar) course.

Comments? Thoughts? This is based on science and careful study but I’m always open to postulation.